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Roy Kim LMFT, CSAT Perhaps you have decided to disclose to your partner (or your partner has given you an ultimatum) the whole truth about your secret behaviors, so that your partner knows everything and does not need to keep searching for answers. How do you go about doing it in the most healthy and helpful way possible? Thankfully, … Read more
Dan Drake, the founder and director of Banyan Therapy Group, joins me to talk about COVID19 and its impact on the recovery path of sexual addicts and their traumatized partners. Contact Dan at dan@banyantherapy.com, and visit his website: www.banyantherapy.com Contact Roy at roy@newlegacycounseling.com and visit his website: www.newlegacycounseling.com
One of the biggest criticisms of online therapy is the limited ability to emotionally connect with the client. Some reasons include the inability to detect body posturing, subtle voice inflections, the awkwardness of “radio silence” over video, etc. The Figure It Out method is a great way to overcome some challenges to online therapy and … Read more
The newest episode of The Same Boat is dedicated to my dad, the 80 year old fountain of youth 💪 Thank you for staying fit and relieving me of any burden of retiring you early. Hatty Lee rejoins me to continue our discussion about parentified children. In this episode we cover topics such as: *The importance of … Read more
“You are not equipped to give your parents the love and care they needed and did not get from their own caregivers and partner,” says Hatty J. Lee, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Many of us have felt tremendous pressure to listen to our parents’ marital problems, to protect them from loneliness or worthless feelings, … Read more
Tiger Woods. Amber Smith. Kanye. Bill Cosby. Lindsay Lohan. Seungri. Lamar Odom. Their sex addictions have made huge headlines and/or ruined lives. Chances are, you have someone in your circle as well who has a sex addiction. Various polls have shown that roughly 25% of females in the church self-report compulsive sexual behavior, and men … Read more
Bronnie Ware, a palliative nurse, wrote a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. This post is an adaptation of her observations, with a bonus idea for Christians. Here are 6 ways to avoid regrets on your deathbed: Work towards YOUR dreams, not the dreams placed on you by your parents. When you … Read more
Chris Williams and I discuss the essential yet often frightening topic of intimacy in the latest episode of SA speakeasy. Some of the questions we cover: What are the pros and cons of allowing someone to know all of me? Would you rather be admired, or loved? What effect does social media have on intimacy? … Read more
I published a new episode of The Same Boat! In Episode 19, I interview Cheryl Kang Prout and Vivianne Kelly of Cordial Family Lawyers, LLP, who provide an intimate glimpse into the world of divorce mediation. Some of the questions we discuss: Are all family lawyers the same? How does divorce affect kids? How is … Read more
Whether they realize it or not, at the core of most sex addicts are 4 fundamental beliefs: I am a bad person, unworthy of love No one will accept me if they really knew me I cannot count on others to meet my needs My most important need is sex Keaton Kleiner and I discuss … Read more